Why Do Women Cry So Much?
I’ve recently given some thought as to why women cry and men rarely do (or at least they hide it well). There seems to be no rhyme or reason to it, but it seems to be something to do with hormones, miscommunication, frustration or sadness.
Maybe it’s just a PMS roller coaster ride. That usually takes the blame. Bottom line, men just are disturbed by women who cry.
I’m just wondering why men get so mystified by it. I mean, crying is just a quick way to get the mascara off….but then again, if you do enough of it (that’s a called a “crying day”) your eyes will look like a goldfish on crack.
Women love to cry. I have now determined that I love an occasional cry myself.
I am a REAL woman. I cry. I’m proud of it.
I don’t schedule crying. It just happens like a sneak attack. Sometimes I have a “CRYING DAY” vs a “crying moment”.
A crying day is when just about everything brings on the tears. Sometimes it’s not even sad. It usually starts when I can’t find my keys or my phone in the morning.
Tears start coming to smudge the fresh coat of mascara I just slapped on. Then I find my keys, usually right in my hand, and I’m done crying. For the moment. I get in the car, there’s some Brian McKnight song on. It doesn’t even have to relate to a moment in my life, but it sounds so….so good to cry to.
So I cry and the guy at the stop light next to me sees me. He rolls his eyes, I chuck him the finger. Now I am ticked off. The crying jag is done for now and I’m onto the road rage portion of my day.
However, the crying day is not over. Later that evening, I cried for no reason while watching a Disney movie with the kids. Couldn’t even come up with reason for it.
Then it just ended. Done. I was over it and everyone else’s heads were still spinning…wondering when I’d start bawling again.
For the sake of my never ending curiosity about why women cry more than men, I Googled the subject of women crying. Seemed like a sane thing to do, right?
I found the following and it seems to explain it all. Now, if you’ve kept up with my blog, you’ll know that I’m not deeply religious but this does mention God. This doesn’t mean I’ve become a Holy Roller…I just like this explanation:
A little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?”
“Because I’m a woman,” she told him.
“I don’t understand,” he said. His Mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will.”
Later the little boy asked his father, “Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?”
“All women cry for no reason,” was all his dad could say.
The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.
Finally he put in a call to God. When God got on the phone, he asked, “God, why do women cry so easily?”
God said: “When I made the woman she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. I gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times comes from her children.
I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining. I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her very badly. I gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart.
I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. And finally, I gave her a tear to shed. This is hers exclusively to use whenever it is needed.”
“You see my son,” said God, “the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart – the place where love resides.”
Pretty deep stuff. But there I have my answer. It gives me license to cry whenever I please now because I have the word from above.
For those who understand this womanly right to cry, may I introduce the “I Can Cry If I Want To” Facebook Page. Feel free to cry up a storm about anything you’d like.
Wow!! Loved your post.. You know what I guess I am having my "Cry Day" today.. I can totally relate to it.. I am goign to write a post of my own on this topic.. will give your link , as your post makes a good read.. thanks for validating my tears
DailyBlonde, I am also a good man who cries, but with only a couple of other good qualities, LOL. No really, I cry at a lot of movies and listening to music. But I have only really bawled out on a few scattered occasions throughout my life and I remember those times to be really cathartic, releasing lots of tension and making me feel very alive and in the moment. I think I have made some of my most profound and meaningful statements during those emotional moments. It really brings you into the NOW. Its almost like your brains way of rebooting itself when it gets overloaded with messages, but somehow you recover in a refreshed and renewed way.
A friend suggested your blog. This simple statement "I Googled the subject of women crying. Seemed like a sane thing to do, right?" makes me think we'd be friends, lol
Flight of the Conchords has a sweet song "I'm Not Cryn' " for any folks nursing a heartache with a good cry.
Woman have a very caring and affectionate heart so they cry more often than men
Someone once told me that I'd get sentimental over an old dishrag. That sentamentality can bring tears to my eyes. But, for me, the best cry is from laughter. My brother-in-law can have me bent over in half, jaw aching, snorting, with tears running down my face, from the jokes he tells. Afterwards I feel cleansed. And as Leslie Gore sang, "It's my party (in this case life) and I'll cry if I want to." No explanation necessary.
Once upon a time, I didn't cry. As I grew up, I learned that I was missing out on those good cries that I once held back. A tear drop is like a rain drop…each drop refreshing and cleansing. A good cry relieves the pressure inside and helps "make it all better". Can't say that red eyes and red nose is better, but inside, it feels good. Tears are a way to connect with ourselves. I love a good cry.
You're the best…you know, I read the part where God gives the reason for crying over and over. It's really great.
"What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul." ~ Jewish Proverbs
One of your best blogs – ever.
Definitely brought a tear to my eye.
Wow interesting replies to the guys that have made comments on here. Hmmmm
A most excellent response! I shall hold my head high… as the tears roll down. (And if I happen across any good men who cry, I'll be sure to send them your way!) And I, too, find it interesting that a post about WOMEN crying has elicited response from your male readers.
Now why wouldn't I be honest? It's my blog…lol…I don't hold back here. AND you're wrong….my father cried, I've seen my brother cry and my sons cry (not the baby cry thing either…) at sad movies. Even ET. So, I wouldn't have an issue with that at all.
Funny men are commenting about their crying–it's about Women crying….which is imminently more yakked about than a man crying. Give me a good man who cries (with a few other good qualities) and I'd consider giving up being single.
I just had to join your community when I saw the invite. To be honest, I am a teary eyed fool… something that neither of my parents are. For instance, when I watched Titanic in the theaters as a kid my dad found it funny when the Titanic was sinking because the people looked like little ping pong balls bouncing around… I was the one bawling.
I like that story. It is a good explanation of why women cry.
I loved the explanation—makes total sense.
Thanks for joining the crying group. lol
Did the source you googled mention anything about God's views on men crying? Just wondering if every time I listen to "Already Gone" by Kelly Clarkson any cry my eyes out… if it's a sign of strength, or if it's a sign that I need to Nutt Up.
I love a man who cries.
… but be honest… he'd likely end up "named" on your ex-date list. Perhaps "Sir Cries-a-Lot" or maybe "Dances with Kleenex?"
As a man, I take offense to this…well not really.. I actually cry at movies, weddings and the like all the time..maybe I am just a really deep guy though.
As a matter of fact, I often judge a movie by how much it makes me cry. For instance, I just saw the new chipmunks movie and cried a little bit..not a great movie..I did not shed one tear during Avatar..not a great story, but fantastic visual affects…
LOL…men cry…but only the strong ones!