Comments on: A Good Wife’s Guide?

By: PattiMcKenna

PattiMcKenna — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 14:50:39 +0000

You are funny! We obviously think very much alike! and, the only apron I have says "I never said I actually know HOW to cook"!

By: Brigitte

Brigitte — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 02:40:25 +0000

This was smart advice for women in the 50's who'd ended up with a guy who both earnt enough $$$ have a woman having the luxury of permanent paid leave via husband (today wives married to such still need to go to work to get an additional income, care for their kids & domestic tasks -even if shared,hence not at work is only holiday leave), didn't presume to expect her to share that load of getting family income, or would too readily divorce her.
Hence one reason to keep him happy or prepared to at other times meet her needs is being stuck together for good, it may as well be happer than miserable.
The fact is the list of niceties for that day are not that time consuming, in other ways a woman in the paid workforce does parallels to her clients or bosses, to be effective and succesful. It doesn't say to never share problems, just when the audience really wouldn't be receptive. Tactically the most powerful statement and impact regarding behaviour that the other knows is dicey like staying out all night is ignoring it. The anticipated fear of the transgressor in what may be brewing or their potential irrelevance ( like what has she got going that it's not threatening her) is massive as they had figured in an angry reaction plus their justifications. The woman can't loose, he'll quit it or is so irredimable in that behaviour pointless to waste energy on it, but does the rest required & she's given him no cause not to provide for her main needs. Where he needs to have the illusion of being the master of the house etc., well in the paid workforce the same is done for ones bosses. This doesn't mean that one hasn't got power to influence , make decisions etc, that type of husband like the boss knows what you are worth & can do plus relying on that.
These days no husband wants most of this, he needs a financial help mate, that play is done by the husband and wife in it's fullest mode to their work settings. Today's husbands looking at the mortgage payments, school fees, medical costs, holidays etc., would rather get the family meal started, drive a kid to one activity while the wife cleans up the meal, picks up the kid and both get on their own pc's to finish of stuff from work, as long as there is caring , respect and sharing of all responsabilities, especially financial ones.

By: gina

gina — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 05:27:19 +0000

Very funny & honestly motivating to read! Enjoyed learning & empathizing with the single mom through such witty writing... .-= gina´s last blog ..Lady Gaga does Out Magazine……Nude =-.

By: Sonja

Sonja — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 13:25:14 +0000

Okay, the good husband’s guide is done. I fear it’s not as funny as the good wife’s guide, but I promise it is more practical.

http://www.fwrenaissance.com/fort-worth-mom-blog-the-good-husband-guide/
.-= Sonja´s last blog ..Fort Worth Mom Blog: The Good Husband Guide =-.

By: Marsha

Marsha — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 03:13:47 +0000

Sounds like the Good Wife’s Guide was the inspiration for the Stepford Wives – Yikes!!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 22:45:30 +0000

Cheryl, I found this article years ago and read it at several wedding rehearsal dinners. It always generates tons of laughs. Good job!

By: Jenni Jiggety

Jenni Jiggety — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 21:02:23 +0000

I would have made a TERRIBLE 50’s wife…

You have been missing from my reader! I wonder what happened?

By: Shirley

Shirley — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 00:39:19 +0000

Darn, Ken took my comment. I have watched June Cleaver and never did she treat Ward like that. Indeed, as soon as Ward walked through the door he had to deal with something Beaver did. Reminds me of my ex who used to say to me “You never tell me thank you for working all day” my response “You never tell me thank you for working all day”. I think my ex must have read that Good Wife’s Guide at some point. Must be why he is my ex.

By: Gerlaine

Gerlaine — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 07:08:17 +0000

I enjoyed your post as I always do. Very refreshing twist on things. Love. .-= Gerlaine´s last blog ..Dress for Success | Day 2 =-.

By: The Daily Blonde

The Daily Blonde — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 04:42:59 +0000

Jenn–I’ll definitely wear the apron. Get sewing, lady.

Sonja–I can’t wait to read it! Let me know when it’s up!

Ken–Chivas is better than lemonade, I suppose. Or maybe lemonade with a shot. Not sure…but I do wish I was one of those 50’s/60’s housewives. SO loved the June Cleaver look…and I’m positive she was a hot chick beneath that perfectly pressed dress.

Tim — the flattery comes in handy when I’m tired.